What leads to hypocrisy is self-interest, when someone wants to get something from someone else…

How can I improve my ability to respond to life according to the impulses of my heart, without being exploited by the personal interests of others?

To begin with, I have several questions:…

This question surprised me at first because I didn’t see it on an existential level but rather on a moral level (and religions are full of edicts of good and bad conscience). Especially with the adjectives "good" and "bad," for me that implied a judgment and didn’t fit with an existential understanding …

Trash thoughts: all labels that are supposed to "define" a person, whether negative or positive. I replace them with an open and benevolent gaze…

I know I’m in this dynamic when I feel an underlying sense of gratitude, for no apparent reason (like a continuous bass in a piece of music). In ‘response’, I’m sometimes given a fluidity, an ease in external events, resulting in joy and lightness, but this isn’t necessary to perceive this sound…

What is sacrifice for you?

“Surrender.”

For me, sacrifice is mostly sacrificing unnecessary suffering.

To dare the unknown.

I’d like to talk about listening. I’ve noticed that there are two listenings. Often, we think we’re listening, but in fact it’s the personality that listens without really listening, because at the same time we anticipate what we’re going to say to the other person; so we’re not in total listening.

How well did this process work for your past workshop participants? Have many people reached the state that they wanted to realize, or does it take a long time of practicing to do that?

Recently I experienced an unpleasant situation with someone…

It seems to me that the exact vocabulary in French to translate "blind spot" is blind spot rather than shadow area.

I realized that we never really addressed the issue of gratitude, of what it is deeply.

Personal-interest does not take into account the context and consequences for others:…

When I am in tune with myself there is no doubt, no trace, I do not reverse my decision.

What is the difference between true love and false love in intimate relationships? More precisely, what is it like to be authentically in love with another person?

I feel true love as something of the nature of destiny…

Quite commonplace.

These are things to be lived,…

A pitfall that appears from time to time is the desire for permanence, the "once and for all,"

I’d say it’s removing all the excess.

How does one recognize such an opportunity?

I would like to propose the subject "dark night of the soul." (Dreariness can be part of it).
I don’t know if it’s really what I’m experience now: at the moment I have the impression of feeling cut off from life, an impression of solitude and exile, where god seems to be so far away,…

The feeling of lack has always been an engine for looking for something, and I recently realized that I wanted to get rid of that feeling of lack. But I wonder if that’s correct, and I think it’s not.

Yes, and emotionally…

This teaching leads to the total acceptance of life, to surrender to life. On this path, different tools are used, such as self-observation and the discovery of the mechanisms that trap ourselves. Body consciousness is a big piece, as well as welcoming useful suffering.

For me, it…

It takes courage to not resist, to accept the necessary suffering, whatever it…

A proposition, ungraspable by the mind, that can propel the listener into nothingness.

A statement, often posed as a kind of riddle, that can only be answered by breaking through the conditioned mind.

The koan is ungraspable to binary logic, it speaks to intuitive knowledge. It is like a blade which…

Not always.

There are tensions and fears that arise.

The essential fear is to be unloved, it seems to me.

For example, you could tell me…

This morning when I woke up, I called myself "good for nothing." I was not welcoming the necessary suffering, on the contrary I even added a little. It’s rare now that I tell myself so. Yesterday, however, I felt good.

Is it not external consideration?

When I feel that "life decides," it is associated with acceptance, trust, relaxation. If I am…

If I was to have in mind all of the actions involved in an activity before starting it, could I avoid running into blocks in the E-F intervals? Would I be able to complete the task straight through to the end?

Yesterday, I was passing walnut oil on the green table, and someone saw me doing that: “Well, we feed the plastic now?” Well, yes, plastic needs to be fed. Passing the oil, I really felt that it was a good thing for the plastic table! There is a notion of caring, not to do that…

I see two cases: one case involves someone with whom we are not really emotionally or functionally involved with. The other case is with someone we may be close to or have an ongoing relationship…

A relational symbiosis is characterized by a high degree of attention and vigilance in all the interactions one engages in, with the other person.
This creates a sensitivity to all aspects of what is going on and also…

I have questions about detachment: if I decide to “not care” about outer events at all, I tend to enter a space of detachment, where perceptions are not judged upon, and I feel “at home” with myself. Although it intuitively feels right, I still hesitate or feel ambivalent: it is as if I shut myself…

I took a little break while I was at work, and my mouse clicks brought me to this quote from Rodney Collin, which I thought I should share with all of you:
“True humility is connected with giving up the luxury of worrying about ourselves. It makes no difference whether it is in the form…

I observed today that I have been living in a subtle prison of hope. Instead of proactively engaging life, I hide in a hope for life. It now feels like a cheap replacement for genuine trust in life and myself. If anyone has any insights or experience with “hope” I would appreciate to hear them.…

Perfectionism seems to me, to be oriented to the result, with tension and inner consideration. Doing conscientiously is doing with awareness of maintaining the quality of movement till the end, regardless of the looks of others. Doing things conscientiously means doing what must be done to feed…

Stephen Jourdain said: “never lie to yourself”, I would like to understand what it means really. Each time L. refers to sincerity, I’m wondering what she is talking about. And you, what does it mean to you?

It speaks to me thus: lying to oneself is a mental gesture, a particular sort of buffer, it…

When I’m in body consciousness, there is a structure called G., but there is nobody inside. It’s like a shadow.

Not nothing, but 99% vacuum. Another way of saying this is that at some point, I’m…

When I was a little girl I would live existential breakthroughs and afterwards they were gone again. There is a saying that goes: “to give is giving. To take it back, is stealing.” I told myself that it was not enough to receive these existential gifts only to have them taken away again. With the…

I was in the Marines, we were out for a drink, on our way there was a fountain in the middle of the walkway. The normal thing to do would be to walk around it. However, I thought I would do a funny…

Exercise: Transmission of competence Transmission has two sides: the instructor who has the knowledge and the apprentice who wants to acquire it. 1. The instructor – when alone doing what he will convey…

G. It helped me understand certain things like the concept of body consciousness. And also…

This is closely linked with body consciousness and fear. The first thing is that when I’m in personal interest, I feel a contraction, I lose body consciousness and it is often related to fear, especially the fear of missing something.

We cannot judge self-interest through behavior,…

My guess is compassion involves a very pure emotional center. At an intellectual level I always liked Osho’s poetic and visual metaphor (my memory of what I read at least) that love was an eternally…

If I act without fear, there is personal responsibility, no self-interest and lack of internal considering.

If there is no self-interest and internal considering, I don’t see how I can be afraid.

What came to me is: relaxing and lack of…

It seems to me essential to correctly understand this notion because I don’t think I can really be in external considering otherwise. I don’t have the impression of having a sort of internal alarm that indicates to me that in this case…

External considering (e.c.) is putting the other at the same level as myself. This goes back to the idea that all is equally important. And that means doing it without inner considering, that is without reading thoughts, without judgment or prejudice, and overall without the “what will he think about me if I do this…

The “welcome necessary suffering” is the practice that I consider most important in our work. If…

For me procrastination is to push to the back burner (for personal comfort or a personality leak) that which needs to be done right now, when “wait and see” would be not to rush things or provoke something, but to instead watch for a legitimate…

I was really good at procrastinating. And it blew up in my face!

Let’s say that I have it on leash. But there are things I don’t do right away.

I know mainly when i’m not in the body consciousness.